Monday, April 09, 2007

A disgrace called abuse

I normally do not like to blog on news reported on TOI.  However, after getting to know that the original information comes from a survey done by an NGO called Prayas in association with UNICEF, I decided to post on this.

Read the full article on sexual abuse on kids in India here.

On a much broader note, abuse against women in public in India is widely rampant.  I am sure many who come from my hometown of Hyderabad in India will realize how they themselves were witnesses to seemingly harmless acts of abuse on roads, buses and busy public junctions, particularly against women.  "Eve-teasing", as it is popularly referred to is a lot more than teasing - often it is an assault on the self-esteem of these hapless women.  They lose their sense of security, suffer public humiliation and cannot dare retaliate against their offenders, lest they become vengeful.  The police is spineless and often lack the conviction due to their indifference and that of the judicial system against such crimes.  The penalties to offenders, when found guilty for such crimes, are often petty and a disgrace to the judicial establishment.

Acts of abuse against women and children should be treated with utmost severity with zero tolerance.  Offenders should be subjected severe punishment with no provision for easy bail and compulsory jail time and community service (cleaning open public toilets with a tag saying they were abusers sounds good to me).  I know that our country does not have a system that has the spine to act with conviction against such crime.  Change has to come from within.   Social taboo against the offenders is often absent or is not manifested in such a way as to deter them from future acts.  We hear people saying things like, " the girl dressed inappropriately - inviting the abuse".  Is it not time for change  Is it not time for us to start treating women with more respect ? 

it is not enough if we pat each other's backs in public saying ours is the land of "Sita".  We better act accordingly.


Xai said...

sita was chucked out of home despite being dressed decently just because she was kidnapped by a rakshas, remember?

besides, it was probably her fault for having overstepped the line drawn by the men in her life...

good post. why must we export men with sense from our country?

Anonymous said...

Once again, Renuka Chowdhury has struck the citizen of India with a new document: Child Abuse.

And she conveniently lumps everything into one nicely bound booklet: sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse.The speed with which these pearls are coming out of Renuka Chowdhury's stable is alarming. I can understand the 'sexual abuse' part, but what is 'physical abuse' and what is 'emotional abuse' is beyond my grasp.

Watch Sagarika Ghose's (she was the idiot who immediately responded to the possibility of NRN Murthy's candidature) dumb display of shoddy journalism on CN_IBN. Is it only me, or are there other tired CNN-IBN viewers who are exasperated by the continuous onslaught of western ideas thrust upon us by Renuka Chowdhury and her ilk?

When this journalist - Sagarika Ghose - asks this question: 'Is the parent-child relationship sick in India?', what kind of shoddy journalism is she resorting to?

Learn about debating people. There's such a thing called a 'complex question' in argumentation. It implicitly assumes you are at fault. For example, 'have you stopped abusing your daughter?' is a complex question.

First it was a distorted legislation on "Protection of Women from Domestic Violence" with very stupid definitions of 'aggrieved person' and 'respondent'. Now the government - which is a curse on our country since Independence - wants to sneak into the parent-child relationship as well. What is more bizarre is in the absence of any original research on these issues (we do not have journals which can do some semblance of research, and follow-up with arguments), the government's findings are considered sacrosanct and immediately, these journalists with a western-paradigm choice-chasing panglossian attitude starts making sensational conclusions. From a need-based system to a rights-based system! How casually, how easily these IAS pen-pushers make these comments.

First, give us good governance, instead of pointing at the faults of Indian families. Perform. Give us employment, good health-care, roads, education. The government has always been a curse on India. India has done well not because of them, but despite them.

There's much to learn from the kind of relationships between parents and kids in our country. And that positive relationship will continue despite this lady's efforts to bring in a litigating society of the Anglo-Saxon variety.

I say, file PILs against the government. We need to keep our servants at our beck & call. Full of sloth, and lack of any deep knowledge about anything, these people are disgusting!

Anonymous said...

Btw, for a much saner, much funnier, and much insightful treatment of the issue, you must watch Russell Peters:

Girish Mallapragada said...

@Xai...thanks for your post..and appreciate your appreciation!

Girish Mallapragada said...


I am sure you are making a valid point. However, merely ranting against all that is government in India does not further any cause nor serve any purpose.

For every IAS officer who messes up - there is one who is efficient.

Mira said...

Great blog!

As many of my Indian guy friends say that it is a problem of the women...


If the men were to commit to the cause to stop abuse, it would have been a stronger force than just half of the women population!

No excuse in "Turning the blind eye" to a very real degradation of man-kind; of what a fellow human can do to another!